Travelling together as a couple is one of the most rewarding things you can do for your relationship. It’s a chance to really get to know your sweetie, a chance to learn all about their strengths and weaknesses and an opportunity to grow as a couple.
Chances are you only see your beloved in the mornings, after work and on weekends. Going from this to having them glued to your side 24/7 on a four week trip around Europe is going to expose you to a wider range of their stress points. So, how do you ensure you both survive travelling together?
It’s important to be realistic, as you’re probably going to have a fight at some point. It’s inevitable that one of you will be sleep-deprived, hungry, angry or jet-lagged and a problem like lost baggage will set off a nuclear argument about relationship responsibilities. Don’t sweat it, fights are totally normal and they don’t spell the end of your holiday.
Before you leave, acknowledge that, while you can’t guarantee no fights, you can guarantee you won’t sweat the small stuff and if a fight does arise you’ll both talk it out and try to resolve it quickly and not hold grudges. There’s no time to waste on being upset when you’re travelling with the person you love most.
It’s also a good idea to rely on each other’s strengths. If one of you is great at staying organised with airport check-ins and key documents, let them take the lead on those while the other takes charge of reading maps and finding your way around town. Trust them and let their strengths and skills shine.
Being honest with your partner while you’re travelling is absolutely key. If you don’t want to go somewhere and do something, just say so. If you don’t want to eat somewhere, let them know upfront. Travel time is too precious to be wasted on hiding your true feelings, so speak up and let them know. You’ll learn a lot about each other and it’ll make your future travel easier, too, as you’ll understand one another more.
If you find that you both have your heart set on doing something the other doesn’t want to, take some time apart. Your honey can go and enjoy a tour of the hidden caves of the shrieking KaKah Bat while you spend a few hours unwinding with a Shiatsu massage at the day spa. When you meet back up later you’ll both feel energised, excited to see one another and will have so much to talk about.
Travel is also a great opportunity to be romantic as you have more free time than usual. Take turns planning a date night or adventure day, which is also a great way to add some fun and surprises to your travel. Organise dinner at a fancy restaurant or indulge in a special bottle of wine at a rooftop bar.
Even though there will be times when your patience is tested, it’s important to respect each other’s limits and see the bigger picture. Travelling together gives you the chance to learn so much more about your partner and to come up against and overcome challenges together. Even though things can get hard at times, the amazing moments shared and memories you’ll have for the rest of your life will always outweigh the other stuff.